Marriage And Relationship

Its kind of a thing. Your partner exasperated with some behavior that you do, asked you to really work on that behavior. Your partner said they want you to make active steps towards changing. This could be seemingly smaller things like putting the milk back when you're done using it, cleaning up after yourself, or not making tone deaf jokes in company. It could also be larger things like addiction or infidelity. Whatever the case, have you gotten this request from your partne

When I work with a couple its important to me that both people are able to share and be heard. And more importantly for them to work on really hearing each other. There are times when one person has done something to hurt the other, but the first person continues to be (not just initially) defensive and more closed off to hearing about it. Part of the therapeutic work to address this is to support this individual in identifying how he/she may be using a long worn defense, th

I once thought it’d be great if people never fought or argued. I believed that until I realized that we need those conflicts, confrontations, squabbles etc. to bring us closer to each other. Forming strong bonds happens in a number of different ways, including getting through difficult things and repairing (hopefully!) together. I have found this to be true for the vast majority of meaningful relationships. Obviously, what the conflict looks like is different depending on

So you don’t want to do the daily check ins with each other. Or communication exercises. Ok. And how is your communication and overall...

There is all this forward motion and progressive movement in our culture towards letting people be who they are, feel their emotions etc....

The third super basic idea that can help save marriages is discussing division of labor between yourself and your spouse. Couples...

Getting on the same page with parenting is the second super basic idea. This is one of those simple but not easy things. We can get stuck...

“Our Problems Really Began After We Had Our First Kid”. This is a common thing that is said in both individual and couples therapy. Kids...

Sometimes couples get stuck in their sexuality for a number of reasons. One of these can be the reduction of non-sexual touch over time....

Couples often seek therapy to work on improving communication. Important issues often require an ongoing conversation. Sometimes we get...

When we use the word “intimacy” there can be an assumption of the closer the better. But there are limits, and having too much closeness...

They’re Boundaries, Not Weapons. “Fresh from my therapist’s office. Gave some tools, she did. Up against the wall pal! I got some...