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Marriage And Relationship


Hard Hearts Don’t Grow Much
I try to be really careful when I am working with a couple, to allow both people’s story to come out. And for them both to get the chance to be heard. And more importantly for them to work on really hearing each other. The thing that makes it difficult sometimes is when one person has done something to hurt the other, but the first person continues to be (not just initially) defensive and more closed off to hearing about it. In my opinion part of the therapeutic work there is

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Jan 28


Must We Fight? Sometimes, We Must (Bonding Through Conflict)
I once thought it’d be great if people never fought or argued. I believed that until I realized that we need those conflicts, confrontations, squabbles etc. to bring us closer to each other. This is in pretty much any kind of relationship. Obviously, what the conflict looks like would be different depending on the type of relationship. Having it out with someone, letting them know where you stand and them letting you know where they stand is important to the longer term cour

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Nov 5, 2025


Damn the check ins.
So you don’t want to do the daily check ins with each other. Or communication exercises. Ok. And how is your communication and overall...

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Aug 15, 2025


Let me cry then.
There is all this forward motion and progressive movement in our culture towards letting people be who they are, feel their emotions etc....

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Aug 12, 2025


Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 3
The third super basic idea that can help save marriages is discussing division of labor between yourself and your spouse. Couples...

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Jul 22, 2025


Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 2
Getting on the same page with parenting is the second super basic idea. This is one of those simple but not easy things. We can get stuck...

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Jul 18, 2025


Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 1
“Our Problems Really Began After We Had Our First Kid”. This is a common thing that is said in both individual and couples therapy. Kids...

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Jul 15, 2025


Re-building Intimacy Through Non-Sexual Touch
Sometimes couples get stuck in their sexuality for a number of reasons. One of these can be the reduction of non-sexual touch over time....

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Jul 2, 2025


Improving Communication: An Ongoing Conversation
Couples often seek therapy to work on improving communication. Important issues often require an ongoing conversation. Sometimes we get...

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Jan 19, 2024


Does More Closeness Mean Better Intimacy?
When we use the word “intimacy” there can be an assumption of the closer the better. But there are limits, and having too much closeness...

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Jun 21, 2023


They're Boundaries, Not Weapons
They’re Boundaries, Not Weapons. “Fresh from my therapist’s office. Gave some tools, she did. Up against the wall pal! I got some...

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May 10, 2023
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