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Must We Fight? Sometimes, We Must (Bonding Through Conflict)
I once thought it’d be great if people never fought or argued. I believed that until I realized that we need those conflicts, confrontations, squabbles etc. to bring us closer to each other. This is in pretty much any kind of relationship. Obviously, what the conflict looks like would be different depending on the type of relationship. Having it out with someone, letting them know where you stand and them letting you know where they stand is important to the longer term cour
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6 days ago
Yes- Viagra and Cialis- But There Still Needs To Be Stimulation!
It is sometimes assumed that if a person takes a PDE5 Inhibitor, they gain an instant erection. PDE5 inhibitors are medications that help support blood flow including to the penis, and therefore support with having an erection. However, there still needs to be stimulation and arousal to be able to have an erection. In other words, taking the medication alone is not sufficient to have an erection. So, no magic pill. But really that is good news. Because that means yourself and
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Nov 3
My Child Won’t Listen! But It Might Be A Parenting Issue
Oh man, so frustrating when my son does that. Or, why does she have to talk back like that? Don’t they know how annoying it is when I’ve asked them 7 times already to do something, and they off doing something else as if I haven’t said a word? They’re just not listening. Yes frustrating. Yes annoying, aggravating. And, I would say, part of the joys of parenting. I think as parents its normal to be overwhelmed, which- welcome to being a person. But also I think parents can ta
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Oct 31
Serenity Prayer
Just a brief reminder of the benefit to working towards accepting the things we cannot change. The serenity prayer holds a simple but powerful message regardless of one's faith position. What are you working on accepting today?
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Oct 24
Premature Ejaculation
Often men are embarrassed to talk about sexual struggles, including pre-mature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation can cause strain in a couple. And often the more frustrated the couple becomes, the worse the problem. What is premature ejaculation? The American Urological Association describes premature ejaculation as “ Men who ejaculate before or shortly after penetration without a sense of control, and who experience distress…”. The important part of this is that it is causi
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Oct 15
To Be Understood (Teens and Anger)
When I listen to a teen who has struggled with rage, impulsivity or both-one of the most important things for them to know is that they are understood. And that their feelings are valid, even if the behavior wasn’t. As a parent or someone who works with teens it can be easy to slip into a confrontational posture, and be incensed at what would appear to be an obvious and knowing manipulation tactic, blame, outburst, act of violence, deceit etc. on the part of the teen. Dependi
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Sep 26
At times we put our past trauma on our loved ones
When we are hurt, at times we revert back to self protection. When we do this, it can come out in a way that is hurtful to others, and...
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Sep 19
I Don't Always Have The Answer (But You Might).
I sometimes feel as a therapist I am supposed to have all the answers. I've sat across from clients who've asked me "why did I do that?",...
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Sep 16
What Looks Like Anger, May Be Shame
Social acceptance, family acceptance, cultural acceptance. Here are three really important contexts to be accepted in that have an impact...
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Sep 10
Therapy With Teen Males (Its About Trust)
I have worked with teen males in therapy over the years. I really enjoy this work. In this bridge between childhood and adulthood there...
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Sep 2
To The Provider of The House: Take Care Of Thine Self, Too
There are different arrangements, roles and responsibilities we create in our family and romantic relationships. There are many families...
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Aug 22
Slippin Again. Maybe.
Back to negative habits. Gosh darn. therapy isn’t working (FALSE!) Don’t get sucked into the common mistruth that therapy (and more...
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Aug 20
Damn the check ins.
So you don’t want to do the daily check ins with each other. Or communication exercises. Ok. And how is your communication and overall...
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Aug 15
Let me cry then.
There is all this forward motion and progressive movement in our culture towards letting people be who they are, feel their emotions etc....
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Aug 12
If you’re sex life is important, then act like it (and have fun while you’re doing it!:)
There are so many factors that play into a couples sexuality. Here I’ll comment share some ideas on improving the sexuality of longer...
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Aug 3
After You Beat Yourself Up, Try The Kindness Thing. It Helps.
Just a brief reminder to be kind to yourself. And being kind to yourself is an imperfect practice. Being kind all the time to yourself...
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Jul 25
Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 3
The third super basic idea that can help save marriages is discussing division of labor between yourself and your spouse. Couples...
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Jul 22
Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 2
Getting on the same page with parenting is the second super basic idea. This is one of those simple but not easy things. We can get stuck...
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Jul 18
Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 1
“Our Problems Really Began After We Had Our First Kid”. This is a common thing that is said in both individual and couples therapy. Kids...
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Jul 15
Group Process: What I Can't Give You As Your Therapist
I tell guys who've joined my men's group- Some of the things I can't give you as a therapist is a share from a peer that resonates with...
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Jul 11
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