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When a couple has sexual struggles, there are often important meanings that one or both in the couple ascribe to these problems, and they way the couple has responded to them. For men getting or maintaining an erection (ED) can be related to their sense of manhood, potency, power. When this is the case there is often an accompanying shame and anxiety about being able to perform. Because if they can’t the thinking goes, what does that mean about my being a man? About my being strong, able to...

I’m fairly sure someone called me a unicorn one time. One of those comments that kinda feels like “thanks! I think…”. And I am sure there are other folks out there who identify as male, black and a therapist. I just don’t know any real well (searching Psychology Today doesn’t count as knowing them, right?). And however many of us there are out there, the monolith idea thing- we can do away with that right now. This is only my experience. I can’t speak for others.   When people ask me why I...

I lead a men’s group by video on Wednesday nights. I use to buy into the idea that women are just more naturally emotionally attuned and aware than men. Women are often the primary care givers for babies and kids. They have seemed to me so much more willing and able to understand and function within the emotional world. Over the years in the therapy room, I have had many experiences with both women and men. Individually, in couples therapy and in groups. What I have learned, and especially...