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Family systems tend to have roles. With the family rebel (child or adult), the anger is often obvious. Maybe its seen through using substances early (teenager) and or to excess. Maybe its punching a hole in the wall, throwing things. Hollering and screaming. Playing music so loud it bleeds through every wall in the house. Risky sexual behaviors. Generally being confrontational or contrarian. Being abusive emotionally or verbally to one’s spouse. However it shows up, the anger is often on the...

So what happens when only one person’s voice or feelings are heard in a romantic relationship (or at least much more heard than their partner)? Well, things get wonky in the relationship if they weren’t already. This imbalance ends up touching so many if not all of the relationship: the communication, maintaining a living space, child rearing, socially, sexually emotional intimacy etc. And there are a whole host of reasons or situations where one person has lost their voice, or chosen not to...

In a fit of anger and hurt and being lost in a trauma vortex after the discovery of her partners infidelity, she told her family about it, his and some of their friends. Her family and friends mostly were pretty shocked, and encouraged her in subtle and not so subtle ways to leave the marriage. She found herself in a bind. As she discovered more info about the affair her partner was having, she did not want to tell her family and friends more, in part because she wasn’t sure if she wanted to...