Super Basic Ideas That Can Help Save Marriages: Part 2

Getting on the same page with parenting is the second super basic idea. This is one of those simple but not easy things. We can get stuck on things like- he’s disney dad- all play and so I have to do all the discipline- makes me the bad guy all the time. Or she put me down in front of them again, it just further puts me outside the family. Sometimes in the frustration and daily busyness, we can forget to slow down and talk to each other as parents about how we’d like to raise our kids. Again really, it ends up being ongoing conversations between you about what you want, what is best for your kiddos, and finding ways of voicing your concerns that the other person can hear and is less likely to feel criticized. A lot of times when parents really begin to take the time to hear each other out about what they are wanting, there is a large overlap to what you want for your children. And where there are differences, listen first to understand. Then see if there is an area of compromise that can be had. What is also useful is to discuss how you were raised, how the other parent was raised, and what you are hoping to do differently or the same. This is important as often there are emotional laden reasons why you want to parent in a certain way, that are connecting to your own early experiences. And as with the last super basic idea, get professional help if you keep getting stuck in these conversations.