Failure Is The Unpleasant Wrapper Around A Fresh Picked Growth Opportunity

What we have is now. I believe all of us have likely felt like a failure, or felt that we have failed at some point in our lives. Depending on the magnitude of the perceived failure, relates often to how much we beat ourselves up about it, and have difficulty getting the distance from it and perspective we need to heal and grow.

Failure can be so sticky. It calls you back just when you start to crawl your way out of feeling bad about it. Yet somehow these iterations of crawling and being sucked back, advancing a bit further and being pulled back again, moving forward once more- is often the process of us healing from it.

In failure there are typically lessons. Part of the nuance of growth, is unsticking ourselves long enough from the shame and repetition of the memory to begin to see something new. To question a different perspective. And not have it jammed down our throat by a well meaning friend or relative. But to consider a slightly different vantage from someone else, or from yourself. There tends to be no quick fix or feel better fast to this. Depending on your experience and your history, it will take time to metabolize what this experience meant to you, your feelings about it and how you can learn from it. Lastly coming back to the present, or mindfulness can be a really helpful tool to give our brain breaks from the mind loops failure often creates in us.