I Don't Always Have The Answer (But You Might).

I sometimes feel as a therapist I am supposed to have all the answers. I've sat across from clients who've asked me "why did I do that?", or "why did they choose this?" or "why did that have to happen?". Deep and profound questions, which would seem to require deep and profound answers. And I do have answers. And I share these with people. But often in the therapy room, the deepest and most profound answers come from you, the client. 

I have my training and my experience. I lead people in the therapy room to certain emotional and historic areas from their lives. I point out connections you may not have seen before. I talk about generational systems, strengths, positives, and generational trauma that trickles down. We talk about how that has come into your relationships, and what you want different. I hold space for you as an unexpected swell of emotions come to you. Your cheeks flush, the pool of tears are there, that you'd hoped not to let fall. 

And in those vulnerable spaces, the answer to your deep and profound question you asked me earlier in the session, will at times make itself available to you. In that pause, before you reveal the answer to me, you've found the answer to your question.

It doesn't always go like this. There are some questions, that if they do get answered take months or years to come. There are some questions that don't get answered, at least not in satisfying ways. Sometimes the answer is less of a specific idea that you can verbalize, and more of a sense in your body that you're moving towards resolution on that issue. Whatever the case, if you come away learning to trust yourself and your body more, we've made progress.